1) "What did you do to your hair?"
Unless we've cut our own hair—this is not common—someone else did something to our hair. It wasn't us. And most likely we've gone to a lot of trouble and expense for it. "I like your new haircut" is infinitely better, and shows you're paying attention. It's also far superior to the generic "You look different," which tells us you're as clueless as ever.
2) "They both look the same to me."
We understand you care a lot less than we do about the outfits or the registry dishware we're asking you to compare. But they can't possibly look exactly the same, can they? Give us something. Anything. Mentally roll the dice and pick one, so we don't worry about your vision—or worse, that you don't care.
3) "Relax."
A kissing cousin to "Don't get so worked up," this generally creates the exact opposite effect you're shooting for. When you say "Relax," what we hear is that you think that we're being irrational over nothing, and this makes us do anything but relax.
4) "I've got it all under control."
Ha! Famous last words. Refrain from using them if you don't want us to take fiendish delight in your getting lost because you won't stop for directions (if we're late, there will be fiendish fuming), or because you're missing a piece to your flat-screen television because you said you didn't need to read the assembly instructions.
5) "You're not one of those feminists, are you?"
Yikes. Chivalry may be nearly dead, but saying this will drive the last spear through its heart. Feminist or not, a woman is likely to be offended by the question. Just be yourself. Be kind, open the door, offer to pay, and go from there. We can choose to accept or share in your generosity.
6) "When are you due?"
Take one second to imagine a woman turning to you and responding, "I'm not pregnant," or "I had the baby six months ago," and you'll understand why you should eradicate this question from your vocabulary. In one nanosecond, innocent—even considerate—curiosity can turn to deadly, if unintentional, offense. And there's just no way to recover from this one.
7) "You're being emotional."
In the heat of the moment this may be true. But unless you want your partner to become more emotional or get angry, you're better off keeping this observation and its off-limits follow-up question—"Is it that time of month?"—to yourself.
8) "You're acting just like your mother/my mother/my ex-girlfriend."
All three are problematic. An ex should be mentioned sparingly, and never in comparison. Why would we want to remind you of a person you broke up with? And come to mention it, why are you thinking about her? You see the slippery slope. Conjuring an image of our mother or your mother can be equally grating. We want you to treat us as individuals and not as mere products of your (or our) upbringing.
9) "You complete me."
We've seen "Jerry Maguire" and most other romantic comedies far more often than you, and while we may (or may not) like cheesy movie lines, they usually fail in real life. We understand that the possibility of romance makes inexplicable things come out of a man's—and sometimes a woman's—mouth, but keep the compliments real and honest and sincere and say you love someone when you mean it.
10) "Do you really think you should be eating that?"
Yes. She should be eating it. Even if she told you she's given it up.
Thursday, January 24, 2008
10 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy
1) "That looks cute."
For the most part, men hate cute. We don't want to hear about it, we don't want to see it, and we sure as hell don't want to be it. If we come down stairs after getting dressed and you tell us we look cute, there's a 100 percent chance we're changing. We're supposed to be your protector, your rock, and cute does not fit into that picture.
2) "We need to talk."
These four words shut off a man's brain faster than long division. When men hear you say that they immediately go into flight mode. And anything they can do to get out of this conversation—and better yet, your apartment—they will. There are plenty of other ways to approach a delicate conversation, and getting us in a place where we feel comfortable is a good start.
3) "It's just a game."
Actually, it's not just a game. Sports are a major part of our lives and the outcome has as much to do with our mood as just about anything else. Is it fair? No. Is it right? No. Is it immature? Maybe. But it's life. Sometimes we just care too much. We understand that it doesn't make sense, but you should be happy that we're that passionate about something. Telling us that "it's just a game" is like us telling you that Oprah's just a talk show host.
4) "Nothing's wrong."
Please don't tell us nothing's wrong. The look on your face could make the toughest guy on the planet weep like a third-grade girl and your arms are crossed so tight you might explode. We're not mind readers; tell us what's going on. And don't make us guess because—believe me—you won't like what we come up with.
5) "I sound like my mom."
The mere fact that you might turn into your mom someday scares the hell out of us. Don't say it, even in jest—it's not funny. We actually believe (and pray) that the saying "every woman ends up looking like their mother" is an old wives' tale. If we didn't, no one would ever get married
6) "I just want to be friends."
No you don't. You just want us to stop calling you. This is a lot like pulling off a band-aid. Do it quick—don't prolong the agony. Most of us take "I just want to be friends" as "There's still a chance," so if there isn't just make it a clean break and move on. Everyone will be much better because of it.
7) "Size doesn't matter."
Don't lie to us. We know it does, and we're doing our best to make up for it in other ways. It's best just to not say anything at all.
8) "What are you wearing?"
We're wearing whatever's clean or whatever you tell us to. We don't plan out our wardrobe days in advance, but we do actually try and look presentable. It may not work a lot of the time, but we do give it a shot. Giving us direction is completely encouraged though, so go ahead and suggest … nicely.
9) "Do you think she's pretty?"
Of course we do, our standards are much lower than yours. But just because we check her out doesn't mean we think any less of you. We try to be as discreet as possible, but for the most part, we can't help it. It's in our DNA. When an attractive woman walks by, it's best to just pretend nothing happened.
10) "Which outfit do you like better?"
I'm going to be honest here—90 percent of the guys out there are not going to tell you which outfit they like better: They're going to try to pick the one you like better and not get into a holy war when the babysitter is due any minute. To us, you always look good. Getting a couple cocktails and spending as much time as we can without the kids is our ultimate goal for a rare night out.
For the most part, men hate cute. We don't want to hear about it, we don't want to see it, and we sure as hell don't want to be it. If we come down stairs after getting dressed and you tell us we look cute, there's a 100 percent chance we're changing. We're supposed to be your protector, your rock, and cute does not fit into that picture.
2) "We need to talk."
These four words shut off a man's brain faster than long division. When men hear you say that they immediately go into flight mode. And anything they can do to get out of this conversation—and better yet, your apartment—they will. There are plenty of other ways to approach a delicate conversation, and getting us in a place where we feel comfortable is a good start.
3) "It's just a game."
Actually, it's not just a game. Sports are a major part of our lives and the outcome has as much to do with our mood as just about anything else. Is it fair? No. Is it right? No. Is it immature? Maybe. But it's life. Sometimes we just care too much. We understand that it doesn't make sense, but you should be happy that we're that passionate about something. Telling us that "it's just a game" is like us telling you that Oprah's just a talk show host.
4) "Nothing's wrong."
Please don't tell us nothing's wrong. The look on your face could make the toughest guy on the planet weep like a third-grade girl and your arms are crossed so tight you might explode. We're not mind readers; tell us what's going on. And don't make us guess because—believe me—you won't like what we come up with.
5) "I sound like my mom."
The mere fact that you might turn into your mom someday scares the hell out of us. Don't say it, even in jest—it's not funny. We actually believe (and pray) that the saying "every woman ends up looking like their mother" is an old wives' tale. If we didn't, no one would ever get married
6) "I just want to be friends."
No you don't. You just want us to stop calling you. This is a lot like pulling off a band-aid. Do it quick—don't prolong the agony. Most of us take "I just want to be friends" as "There's still a chance," so if there isn't just make it a clean break and move on. Everyone will be much better because of it.
7) "Size doesn't matter."
Don't lie to us. We know it does, and we're doing our best to make up for it in other ways. It's best just to not say anything at all.
8) "What are you wearing?"
We're wearing whatever's clean or whatever you tell us to. We don't plan out our wardrobe days in advance, but we do actually try and look presentable. It may not work a lot of the time, but we do give it a shot. Giving us direction is completely encouraged though, so go ahead and suggest … nicely.
9) "Do you think she's pretty?"
Of course we do, our standards are much lower than yours. But just because we check her out doesn't mean we think any less of you. We try to be as discreet as possible, but for the most part, we can't help it. It's in our DNA. When an attractive woman walks by, it's best to just pretend nothing happened.
10) "Which outfit do you like better?"
I'm going to be honest here—90 percent of the guys out there are not going to tell you which outfit they like better: They're going to try to pick the one you like better and not get into a holy war when the babysitter is due any minute. To us, you always look good. Getting a couple cocktails and spending as much time as we can without the kids is our ultimate goal for a rare night out.
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
The problems with GIRLS::
If u TREAT her nicely, she says u are IN LOVE with
her;
If u Don't, she says u are FROUD.
If u DRESS Nicely, she says u are trying to LURE
her;
If u Don't, she says u are from CHENNAI.
If u ARGUE with her, she says u are STUBBORN;
If u keep QUIET,! she says u have no BRAINS.
If u are SMARTER than her, she'll lose FACE;
If she's Smarter than u, she is GREAT.
If u don't Love her, she tries to POSSESS u;
If u Love her, she will try to LEAVE u.(very true
huh?)
If u don't make love with her., she says! u don't
Love
her;
If u do!! she says u are CHEAP.
If u tell her your PROBLEM, she says u are
TROUBLESOME;
If u don't, she says that u don't TRUST her.
If u SCOLD her, u are like a CHACHA to her;
If she SCOLDS u, it is because she CARES for u.
If u BREAK you! ! r PROMISE, u Cannot be TRUSTED;
If she BREAKS hers, she is FORCED to do so.
If u SMOKE, u are BAD BOY;
If she SMOKES, she is a GENTLELADY.
If u do WELL in your exams, she says it's LUCK;
If she does WELL, it's BRAINS.
If u HURT her, u are CRUEL;
If she HURTS u, u are too SENSITIVE!!
& sooo hard to please!!!!!
her;
If u Don't, she says u are FROUD.
If u DRESS Nicely, she says u are trying to LURE
her;
If u Don't, she says u are from CHENNAI.
If u ARGUE with her, she says u are STUBBORN;
If u keep QUIET,! she says u have no BRAINS.
If u are SMARTER than her, she'll lose FACE;
If she's Smarter than u, she is GREAT.
If u don't Love her, she tries to POSSESS u;
If u Love her, she will try to LEAVE u.(very true
huh?)
If u don't make love with her., she says! u don't
Love
her;
If u do!! she says u are CHEAP.
If u tell her your PROBLEM, she says u are
TROUBLESOME;
If u don't, she says that u don't TRUST her.
If u SCOLD her, u are like a CHACHA to her;
If she SCOLDS u, it is because she CARES for u.
If u BREAK you! ! r PROMISE, u Cannot be TRUSTED;
If she BREAKS hers, she is FORCED to do so.
If u SMOKE, u are BAD BOY;
If she SMOKES, she is a GENTLELADY.
If u do WELL in your exams, she says it's LUCK;
If she does WELL, it's BRAINS.
If u HURT her, u are CRUEL;
If she HURTS u, u are too SENSITIVE!!
& sooo hard to please!!!!!
Marriage Life Before and After !!
Marriage Life Before and After !!
Before marriage.
Darling here... darling there...
After marriage.
Baling here... baling there...
Before marriage.
I die for you. . .
After marriage.
'You die, up to you. '
Lagi lama married.
You die I help you!
Before marriage.
You go anywhere. . I follow you.
After marriage. .
You go anywhere. . up to you .
Lagi lama married.
You go anywhere better get lost!!
Before wedding
you are my heart, you are my love'
After wedding
'you get on my nerves. '
Before wedding
'you are sweet and kind just like Cinderella'
After wedding
'you are worse than godzila'
Before wedding
Roses are red, violets are blue. Like it or not, I'm stuck with you
After wedding
Roses are dead, I am blue. You get on my head, I will sue you
Before wedding
Every makan he brings you to Shangri-La
After wedding
You want to go, he says you wait-la
Before wedding
She looks like Anita Sarawak
After wedding
Don't know whether katak or biawak
Before marriage.
Darling here... darling there...
After marriage.
Baling here... baling there...
Before marriage.
I die for you. . .
After marriage.
'You die, up to you. '
Lagi lama married.
You die I help you!
Before marriage.
You go anywhere. . I follow you.
After marriage. .
You go anywhere. . up to you .
Lagi lama married.
You go anywhere better get lost!!
Before wedding
you are my heart, you are my love'
After wedding
'you get on my nerves. '
Before wedding
'you are sweet and kind just like Cinderella'
After wedding
'you are worse than godzila'
Before wedding
Roses are red, violets are blue. Like it or not, I'm stuck with you
After wedding
Roses are dead, I am blue. You get on my head, I will sue you
Before wedding
Every makan he brings you to Shangri-La
After wedding
You want to go, he says you wait-la
Before wedding
She looks like Anita Sarawak
After wedding
Don't know whether katak or biawak
Saturday, December 29, 2007
Laws on GIRLS!!!
1. If u think a girl is beautiful,
she'll always have a boyfriend to
confirm that..........
2. The nicer she is...the quicker u
will be dumped!!!!!
3. More the makeup, Worse the looks...
4. "95% of the girls in this world are
beautiful. Remaining 5% would
always be around you...
5. The guy standing next to a
beautiful girl can never be her
brother.
6. If by any chance the girl you
like , likes you too, she will let you
know in about 10 years from now ,when
you are committed to some one
else
7. The more you ignore a girl, the
more she'll want to be friends with
you.
8. Theory of relativity.. ....
The more u run after a hot
chick....the more she runs away from
u...
9. Even if you got her out alone...
just when you are about to let her
know about your feelings...she will
spot a long lost friend I guess
she'll always have a boyfriend to
confirm that..........
2. The nicer she is...the quicker u
will be dumped!!!!!
3. More the makeup, Worse the looks...
4. "95% of the girls in this world are
beautiful. Remaining 5% would
always be around you...
5. The guy standing next to a
beautiful girl can never be her
brother.
6. If by any chance the girl you
like , likes you too, she will let you
know in about 10 years from now ,when
you are committed to some one
else
7. The more you ignore a girl, the
more she'll want to be friends with
you.
8. Theory of relativity.. ....
The more u run after a hot
chick....the more she runs away from
u...
9. Even if you got her out alone...
just when you are about to let her
know about your feelings...she will
spot a long lost friend I guess
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
Saying I love you...........
The all times special three-lettersword, “I Love You” is what we wouldalways be hearing when we talk aboutlove. It is the words that one would useto express their feeling of affectionfor their very loved ones. But still,why is it that at times one simply justrefuses to say it to their love? Therehave indeed been a lot of postings fromfriends in our forum having suchexperience. Despite of them saying it totheir partner, they just never got itback from their love. It is for suredisappointing and at times just hurting,isn’t it? Are you one of them? One whois still waiting to be hearing thatspecial words from your love or perhapsone who has yet to say it to your love?Now, why wouldn’t one say it? Why wouldone be reluctant in saying it to theirlove, saying an I love you to them?
Hmmm…? Perhaps having the fear ofshouldering that responsibility behindthese powerful words? Yes, it is in away true. You shouldn’t be saying I loveyou to someone unless you truly mean it.Once it is said, you can never take it back.Well in fact, a friend in our forum didshare with us a thought of what he heardfrom a Christian pastor on a radioprogramme. In the belief of the pastor,a man shouldn’t be telling a woman thathe loves her unless the very next wordsare “Will you marry me?” Again, it isindeed in a way true. But if you were toask me, I am just going to tell you thatit certainly need not has to be thatserious or maybe a better word to bedescribing, scary. Yes, marriage shouldwithout doubts be the ultimateconsideration of all love relationshipat the end of the day. But do let mejust ask, how soon do you see yourselfgetting married?Well, there has to certainly be aconsiderable time of being togetherbefore the relationship would furtherdevelop into the stage of marriage. Forsome, a year or two and for some, up toeven a duration of 5 to 7 years beforereaching this stage. So are you notgoing to be saying “I love you” to yourlove during these times, not even once?
This certainly shouldn’t be the way. Ahealthy love relationship shouldn’t be so.Now may I just ask, why is it that youwant to be with that love of yours?Because you enjoy his or her presence,always enjoying your time with him orher? Precisely! A healthy relationshipshould always be an enjoyable one, onewhich both enjoy spending their timewith one another over and over again.There is no need to make yourself befeeling so stressed. A healthyrelationship should never be a stressfulone. Having to deal with the fast pacedworld can be stressful enough at times.And so when it comes to yourrelationship with your loved one, itshould be a relaxing and enjoyable one.It is only when you enjoy the time withone another, will you ever then have thethoughts of spending that life of yourswith him or her. Isn’t it so? Saying Ilove you is just a way of expressingyour affection for your love. It doesn’thave to be that stressful. It shouldinstead just come from within yourheart, in a very joyful and relaxingmood… To be getting an “I love You” fromyour love is just always that sweet. Andto be saying it to your love, is a niceway of assuring and promising him or her of your very love for them..
So, why not say it to them? Tell yourvery love just how much you love him orher. You need not have to wait for himor her. You can definitely be taking theinitiative. Why not? I am sure that yourlove would just love to be hearing itfrom you. Wouldn’t you love to behearing it from your very loved one too?Nonetheless, this can be a good way ofkeeping that flame of love between theboth just ever burning and sparkling… Tobe getting an assurance of love fromyour partner, isn’t that what you wouldlove to be receiving? But do remember,it is still always the actions thatspeak louder than to words. Now, maybethat him or her of yours has yet to saythat very three-letters word to you buthow has he or she treated you all thesewhile, you should know it best. Thattender, love and care from him or her isafterall what that truly matter? Well,if he or she truly loves you, it isgoing to be just a matter of time whenhe or she will say it to you. Believe inyourself, your love and yourrelationship. Be patient in love.
Saying an “I love You” to your loved oneis for sure nice. But then again, youdon’t have to always be saying it justvery here and then. Remember, the wordshave to come from truly within yourheart, in a very joyful and relaxingmood. And only so, will the realwarmness and meaningfulness of the wordsbe there; to be touching that very heartof that beloved of yours. Well, savethem for during those special occasionsor when the correct mood or timing isthere… And last but not least, don’tforget to response back in saying an “Ilove you too” to your love when youreceived it from him or her. Arelationship is always a two-waycommunication, isn’t it? Don’tdisappoint your love. Well, you may notbe ready now but when the correct timingarrives when you feel the want to besaying it, just do it. Be courageous inlove…
Hmmm…? Perhaps having the fear ofshouldering that responsibility behindthese powerful words? Yes, it is in away true. You shouldn’t be saying I loveyou to someone unless you truly mean it.Once it is said, you can never take it back.Well in fact, a friend in our forum didshare with us a thought of what he heardfrom a Christian pastor on a radioprogramme. In the belief of the pastor,a man shouldn’t be telling a woman thathe loves her unless the very next wordsare “Will you marry me?” Again, it isindeed in a way true. But if you were toask me, I am just going to tell you thatit certainly need not has to be thatserious or maybe a better word to bedescribing, scary. Yes, marriage shouldwithout doubts be the ultimateconsideration of all love relationshipat the end of the day. But do let mejust ask, how soon do you see yourselfgetting married?Well, there has to certainly be aconsiderable time of being togetherbefore the relationship would furtherdevelop into the stage of marriage. Forsome, a year or two and for some, up toeven a duration of 5 to 7 years beforereaching this stage. So are you notgoing to be saying “I love you” to yourlove during these times, not even once?
This certainly shouldn’t be the way. Ahealthy love relationship shouldn’t be so.Now may I just ask, why is it that youwant to be with that love of yours?Because you enjoy his or her presence,always enjoying your time with him orher? Precisely! A healthy relationshipshould always be an enjoyable one, onewhich both enjoy spending their timewith one another over and over again.There is no need to make yourself befeeling so stressed. A healthyrelationship should never be a stressfulone. Having to deal with the fast pacedworld can be stressful enough at times.And so when it comes to yourrelationship with your loved one, itshould be a relaxing and enjoyable one.It is only when you enjoy the time withone another, will you ever then have thethoughts of spending that life of yourswith him or her. Isn’t it so? Saying Ilove you is just a way of expressingyour affection for your love. It doesn’thave to be that stressful. It shouldinstead just come from within yourheart, in a very joyful and relaxingmood… To be getting an “I love You” fromyour love is just always that sweet. Andto be saying it to your love, is a niceway of assuring and promising him or her of your very love for them..
So, why not say it to them? Tell yourvery love just how much you love him orher. You need not have to wait for himor her. You can definitely be taking theinitiative. Why not? I am sure that yourlove would just love to be hearing itfrom you. Wouldn’t you love to behearing it from your very loved one too?Nonetheless, this can be a good way ofkeeping that flame of love between theboth just ever burning and sparkling… Tobe getting an assurance of love fromyour partner, isn’t that what you wouldlove to be receiving? But do remember,it is still always the actions thatspeak louder than to words. Now, maybethat him or her of yours has yet to saythat very three-letters word to you buthow has he or she treated you all thesewhile, you should know it best. Thattender, love and care from him or her isafterall what that truly matter? Well,if he or she truly loves you, it isgoing to be just a matter of time whenhe or she will say it to you. Believe inyourself, your love and yourrelationship. Be patient in love.
Saying an “I love You” to your loved oneis for sure nice. But then again, youdon’t have to always be saying it justvery here and then. Remember, the wordshave to come from truly within yourheart, in a very joyful and relaxingmood. And only so, will the realwarmness and meaningfulness of the wordsbe there; to be touching that very heartof that beloved of yours. Well, savethem for during those special occasionsor when the correct mood or timing isthere… And last but not least, don’tforget to response back in saying an “Ilove you too” to your love when youreceived it from him or her. Arelationship is always a two-waycommunication, isn’t it? Don’tdisappoint your love. Well, you may notbe ready now but when the correct timingarrives when you feel the want to besaying it, just do it. Be courageous inlove…
Caring For Each Other In Love.....
A lot is written and discussed about love. What is love? What are the different types of love? What phasesdoes love go through? And so on. Youpresume that when someone says that 'Ilove you', he/she cares for you. He/she cares for your likes and dislikes, caresf or your comfort, cares to keep youhappy and takes care not to hurt you.And you do the same for him/her. Unlessone cares, how can love be complete?
It is like saying that you love birds.One day, when you find an injured bird,you don't pick it up and take it to get treated. Can you still say that you lovebirds? Many relationships suffer immeasurably, because partners claim that they love each other, but show no care.
It is like saying - 'I love him/her somuch, but I fail to understand how to keep him/her happy? I don't understand what to do? I feel so helpless.' What use is love if this is the position? If you love someone so much, try to findout. Rather you should know. Either you don't love, or the other person has changed beyond recognition for you and you really feel helpless. It is the memory of the old love that makes you say- 'I love him/her so much. The present reality is different.'Many times, those who claim to love someone, ask him/her to do something totally against his/her values. They force this as a price for their love. 'I love you so much. Cannot you do this for me?' Is this love? If you truly love,you will never ask somebody to act against his/her conscience. You will never hurt like this.
Love word gets misused often. Most ofthe people don't love. That was
infatuation for some time and now thatis over. Now on the pretext of love,they want to continue a relationship that gives only pain...
It is like saying that you love birds.One day, when you find an injured bird,you don't pick it up and take it to get treated. Can you still say that you lovebirds? Many relationships suffer immeasurably, because partners claim that they love each other, but show no care.
It is like saying - 'I love him/her somuch, but I fail to understand how to keep him/her happy? I don't understand what to do? I feel so helpless.' What use is love if this is the position? If you love someone so much, try to findout. Rather you should know. Either you don't love, or the other person has changed beyond recognition for you and you really feel helpless. It is the memory of the old love that makes you say- 'I love him/her so much. The present reality is different.'Many times, those who claim to love someone, ask him/her to do something totally against his/her values. They force this as a price for their love. 'I love you so much. Cannot you do this for me?' Is this love? If you truly love,you will never ask somebody to act against his/her conscience. You will never hurt like this.
Love word gets misused often. Most ofthe people don't love. That was
infatuation for some time and now thatis over. Now on the pretext of love,they want to continue a relationship that gives only pain...
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